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LEAVING YOUR CHILDREN SOMETHING TO LOVE BY: SOME RECOMMENDATIONS FOR TALKING WITH KIDS ABOUT SEX

19th May 2009

Practice your approach together. The biggest danger in sex and love education is what I call “split-parent sex education.” This happens when parents’ values and ideas are different. Kids are expert at using this difference to collect whatever support they need for whatever it is they want to do or not to do. If the two of you can’t get it together, you really can’t expect your children to get themselves together.

It is a good idea to try to get someone you trust and respect to help with sex and love education. This “unit” approach seems to be a very helpful technique, but one that takes some very open prior communication with the person chosen to help.

Sex and love education is not a one-time thing. Sexuality is a lifetime process. Both you and your children will learn forever. We will know we are making some progress when regular sex- and love-education classes are offered in our nursing homes. Sex education is definitely not for children! It’s for everyone.

The “inoculation theory” of sex education does not work. You cannot teach children once and render them sexually immune. Repeating over and over never really works for getting their room clean, but they do learn that you value cleanliness. They will also learn through repetition what you value sexually, your marriage-intimacy emphasis.